My 5 Step (Mostly) No Fail Method for Dealing with Challenging Situations.
I step away from the email. I am trying to live by the mantra do not email angry. This is a continual struggle.
I find someone who knows more than me to give me advice. I have a list of colleagues and friends I consult about different subjects. If the challenging situation is about being a manager or managing employees, I call my dad. He’s got great advice because he was a manager for 27 years. And I’m pretty sure he’s never emailed angry. If it’s about an administrative/school issue I go to my colleague KP. She knows everything because she’s been a teacher and an administrator. She’s also who I consult if I have a challenging grammar question because she’s the only person I know who is as interested in grammar and words as I am. If it’s about a French question, I consult the Internet. On any general topic, I am 100% certain that I am not the first person to have thought or had the problem and more than likely somewhere on the Internet someone has an answer or lesson I can use.
I continue to stay away from the email. (Très important!)
I confront/deal with the situation following the advice I sought out.
I reflect on what happened. Why did this situation arise? Was there anything I could have done to prevent it? Could I have handled the confrontation or dealt with the person in a different more effective manner? Then I take steps to implement any changes that need to be made.